New Year Wishes

Hi all,

Wishing u  colurful Happy New Year .


Regards

Sugandh.S

Todays Punch...

ஒவ்வொரு நிமிடமும் மகிழ்ச்சியாய் இரு...அடுத்த நிமிடம் அதற்கு முடியாமல் போய்விடலாம்....


அன்புடன்,

சுகந்த்

What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend !!.... must read.. Nice !!!!

 

What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend !!

 

 Very good article

On a random day, at a random place you come across a random girl and you get an instant feeling that she is the "one" for you. In the next few mins of talk, the inevitable question comes up "Are you on Orkut?"...Now that's the beginning. You take her email ID, flick her chat ID from Orkut and start loading her inbox with messages, forwards, funny mails, quotes etc etc., . You are always online for her and the moment you comes online the question pops up on her window, "Hey hi, wass up?" You always go to places where there is a chance of seeing her. You try to run in to her and pretend that it was accidental. You wear nice dresses and try to look good on the days when there is a high probability of meeting her. After that you take her phone number and start calling her every day. For the first few days she picks up the phone, then slowly she starts giving the busy tone and the next stage is total avoidance. But, you always believe that she is interested in you or at least you don't want to accept the truth. For some of you the big day comes when you express your feelings to her and you don't even have to wait for her reply, it is generally, "I did not see you in that way, can we be just friends?". Some don't even reach that stage, they hide their feelings, but in either case one thing is common, the girl's name ends up being the password for the next few months.

As soon as they realize that they have reached the "age", guys start trying to impress girls. Some try to show-off that they are smart and some have this weird belief that girls consider stupid guys as cute. Intelligence to innocence, being introvert to extrovert, being classy to messy, strong to weak ...anything and everything, every guy has own strategy. I don't know who came up with this quote "Everything is fair in love and war", he (not she) must probably have been one of them. I don't know why guys fail to understand that girls are smart enough to understand all these and why would not they? Even before they realize that they are "girls", guys start hitting on them, one after the other, day and night, not allowing them even to breathe properly.

After reading till here some of you might be in dilemma whether you are really desperate or not. It's very easy to come to a conclusion. Take a paper and answer the following questions in Yes or No

1. Whenever you see a girl walking on the road ahead of you, Do you increase your walking speed, walk past her and then turn back to see her face?
2. Do you become very conscious about what you are talking, when you are around with girls?
3. Do you try to be cool or someone else in order to impress girls?
4. Do you think staying clam or moody when in a group makes the girl think about you?
5. You ask a girl to join you for lunch or coffee; do you think a YES from other side is an indication that she is interested in you?
6. Do you keep staring at girls?
7. Are you ready to date a girl even if she is around with someone else as well?
8. Is "Girls" the main topic of all your discussions with your friends?

If you find even a single "YES" in the paper then YOU ARE DESPERATE. Be a man, accept it.

Now the real question "What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend?"
Did you actually believe that I would come up with some solution or tips? Had I known it, would I be still single? It was just a trick to make you guys read this one. But, I have one tip though, first and foremost STOP being desperate. I know that it is difficult. At least try not to show that you are desperate. The rule is simple, "No one in this world cares for a thing that is easily gettable" and FYI girls are never worried about finding a guy and why do they have to? Did you ever come across a girl who never had a BF or never been proposed by a guy? If yes, then that's a miracle, you met a rare species or an extinct one in this world.

If you got the tip that you wanted and don't want to read any further it's fine. But, I would recommend reading further. Trust me, keep reading.

We know that we are the ones who make the girls realize that they are important, treat them as if they are precious, tell them that they are beautiful and show that they are in demand. We buy them gifts, spend all the money we have, do their work, roam around with them all the time, carry their stuff and in the end what do we get in return? a few thanks and an offer to be a good friend. Do we need all this? If 1/1000 th of the time wasted on a girl is spent on a guy you will find a friend for a lifetime. Just play some game together or watch a movie, give him a cigarette or buy him a drink and that is it. Realize that spending a night with your friends drinking till everyone pukes, having a hangover throughout the next day is more fun than spending the same night with your girl in a pub buying her drinks, talking crap, listening crap, making some crap moves..... What ever.

I know that at some point of time in your life you might have realized all this. But, there is a need to educate the rest and also pass on the message to the future generations. I dream of a day when guys are in demand and girls start worrying about finding a guy. I hope the day comes soon.

If you are still desperate, you need a second read.

P.S.: To the girls: If you think that some guy is crazy about you and trying hard to impress you, please tell him immediately if you are not interested.

  

Thanks for Sparing your Time .

Regards,

Sugandh.S

Courtesy : Manasa

Lets Pray for Each Other (This is too good not to share )

Too good NOT to share!

A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors, not knowing what else to do, agree that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on opposite sides of the island.

The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a fruit-bearing tree on his side of the land, and! he was able to eat its fruit. The other man's parcel of land remained barren.

After a week, the first man was lonely and he decided to pray for a wife. The next day, there was a woman who swam to his side of the
Land.  On the other side of the island, there was nothing.

Soon the first man prayed for a house, clothes, more food. The next day, like magic, all of these were given to him. However, the second man still had nothing.

Finally, the first man prayed for a ship, so that he and his wife could leave the island. In the morning, he found a ship docked at his side of the island. The first man boarded the ship with his wife and decided to leave the second man on the island. He considered the other man unworthy to receive God's blessings, since none of his prayers had been answered.

As the ship was about to leave, the first man heard a voice from heaven booming, "Why are you leaving your companion on the island?"
"My blessings are mine alone, since I was the one who prayed for them," the first man answered. "His prayers were all unanswered and so he does not deserve anything."

"You are mistaken!" the voice rebuked him. "He had only one prayer, which I answered. If not for that, you would not have received any of my blessings."

"Tell me," the first man asked the voice, "what did he pray for that I should owe him anything?"

"He prayed that all your prayers be answered."

For all we know, our blessings are not the fruits of our prayers alone, but those of another praying for us.

This is too good not to share...

My prayer for you today is that all your prayers are answered. Be blessed.

"What you do for others is more important than what you do for yourself"

This was shared with me by a friend, I hope you will share with your friends!
----------------------
LET’S PRAY FOR EACH OTHER.
Sometimes a kind word at the right moment can change a life forever. 

 

 

Regards,

 

Sugandh.S

Courtesy : Manasa

இது அனைவருக்கும் பொதுவானது ...

இன்றைய (அ)லட்சியம்
நாளைய (ஏ)மாற்றம் 

என்றும் அன்புடன்,

ச.சுகந்த்

Courtesy : Bala Anna..

Boigraphy of Swami Vivekananda

Biography

A spiritual genius of commanding intellect and power, Vivekananda crammed immense labor and achievement into his short life, 1863-1902. Born in the Datta family of Calcutta, the youthful Vivekananda embraced the agnostic philosophies of the Western mind along with the worship of science.
At the same time, vehement in his desire to know the truth about God, he questioned people of holy reputation, asking them if they had seen God. He found such a person in Sri Ramakrishna, who became his master, allayed his doubts, gave him God vision, and transformed him into sage and prophet with authority to teach.
After Sri Ramakrishna's death, Vivekananda renounced the world and criss-crossed India as a wandering monk. His mounting compassion for India's people drove him to seek their material help from the West. Accepting an opportunity to represent Hinduism at Chicago's Parliament of Religions in 1893, Vivekananda won instant celebrity in America and a ready forum for his spiritual teaching.
For three years he spread the Vedanta philosophy and religion in America and England and then returned to India to found the Ramakrishna Math and Mission. Exhorting his nation to spiritual greatness, he wakened India to a new national consciousness. He died July 4, 1902, after a second, much shorter sojourn in the West. His lectures and writings have been gathered into nine volumes.

puthinam Website Closed..

Dear All,

It is very sad to inform that Puthinam website is closed.

Regards,

Sugandh.S

Stressed About Office Work ????

Stressed About Office Work? Here’s How to Relax

Posted by: Dr. Mercola
April 28 2004 | 5,849 views

By Dr. Joseph Mercola
     with Laina Krisik
It’s 6:30 p.m., you’ve just completed an exhausting 10-hour workday, a stack of unfinished paperwork still lays in a pile on your desk, e-mails sit in your inbox waiting to be answered and you are now you sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic trying to psych yourself up for the one-and-a-half hour drive ahead of you. Rather than paying attention to the road and leaving your work in the office, you’re making mental lists of what you haven’t finished at work and then another list of what you need to do when you get home.
Aside from causing physical health problems such as fatigue, headaches, nausea, and rapid heartbeat, work-related stress can lead to poor job performance, accidents on the job, termination and violence. These are just some of the reasons that make work-related stress a critical issue that shouldn’t be ignored.
Identifying Your Sources of Stress

The first step to dealing with work-related stress is identifying the source of it.
There are two types of factors that cause work-related stress, internal and external. Once you determine the types of stress factors affecting you, you will be able to effectively find coping strategies to dealing with it.
Some external factors may include:

• Personality conflicts with a co-worker or dealing with a difficult supervisor.
• Technology overload--attached to work through e-mail, pagers, cell phones and faxes.
• Understaffed due to cutbacks and downsizing.
• Lack of training or supervision.
• Working an excess number of hours and finding you are spending more time at work than at home.
  

Internal factors include:

• Perfectionism--setting unrealistic expectations for yourself.
• Having unrealistic expectations of your job.
• Taking on too much and ignoring your limitations.

Finding effective ways of dealing with stress while you’re at work can help you improve your sense of control over your life at work and better prepare you to plan and prioritize your time at work and at home.
How to Deal With Stress at Your Desk

If your job involves working on a computer all day, you may not be able to find the time to take many breaks away from your desk. However, for your mental health it is important to make a point of practicing occasional stress reduction techniques throughout the day. This will allow you to clear your mind so you’re able to produce quality work and reenergize your body physically. For those aches and pains and moments of stress during your workday, you could try these simple tips sitting right at your desk:

• Raise your shoulders and try to touch your ears. Stay in this position for a couple of seconds, then release. Try this about 10 times or until your shoulders feel less tense.
  
• For at least 30 seconds, shake your wrist.
  
• Take a deep breath and hold it for a few seconds, then slowly exhale. Do this five times.
  
• Quickly rub the palms of your hands together until they get hot, then close your eyes and place your palms over your eyes. You will find the heat relaxes the eyeballs.
  

De-Stressing at the End of the Workday
Unwinding from the stresses of your workday should begin before you leave the office. Here are some great tips that will help you leave stress at the office where it belongs:

• Start winding down from your workday 30 minutes before you leave for the day. You can do some professional reading, straightening or cleaning your office area or putting away files. This should be any task that is not demanding and can be done leisurely.
  
• Make a tomorrow’s to-do list and put a star by two items that will give you a sense of accomplishment.
  
• If you have to deal with traffic on your way home, try picking up books on tape or a comedy tape. Music is great therapy so why not put on your favorite CD and belt it out.
  
• Aromatherapy produces a calming effect, particularly the scent of lavender, which you could spray on your dashboard or buy a lavender-scented air freshener.
  
• Take some winding down time for yourself when you get home. This could be some kind of aerobic activity or reading a book or favorite magazine.
  
• Put the thoughts from your day out of your mind and get a good night’s sleep.
  

The Powerful Stress-Relieving Benefits of Exercise
Exercise is also an excellent way to relieve tension and ward off the physical consequences of stress. Studies have shown that during exercise, tranquilizing chemicals, endorphins, are released in the brain. Exercise is a natural way to bring your body pleasurable relaxation and rejuvenation.
Here are some suggestions to get you started:

• Walking
• Swimming
• Jogging
• Bicycling
• Hiking
• Cross-country skiing
• Volleyball

Using Humor to Relieve Stress of the Workday
In addition to these tips, many studies have shown that humor has increased work productivity. It has been cited as the best antidote to stress. A good hearty laugh has been proven to increase the immune system’s activity, lower stress hormones and increase the antibody immunoglobulin A, which protects the upper-respiratory tract. Other benefits of humor that make your work environment a more pleasant place to be includes that it shows you are easy to work with, it makes people like you and want to be around you, it enhances your creativity and can change a negative perception into a positive one.
Since stress in the office has become such a prominent issue in our society, people have resorted to seeking a variety of products from the practical to the bizarre to help alleviate their stress at the office.
These products range from:

• Punching bags
• Desk pillows
• Stress relief aromatherapy kits for the office
• Having a dog at the office
• Essential oils in vaporizers
• Stress reduction office massages
• Magic eight balls
• Stress balls
• Stress check indicator cards

With stress-related complaints accounting for 75 percent to 90 percent of all physician office visits and all of the medical ailments related to it, choosing not to deal with stress is not an option. Sleep, exercise and following a nutritious eating program are the foundation of relieving stress and maintaining your optimal health both in and out of the office.
For people constantly "on the go" and contending with overwhelming schedules daily, I recommend you consider the book, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. In this book you will find practical and realistic approaches to improving your personal productivity. It is also available on audiocassette, which is great because you could listen to it while in traffic and discover ways to effectively manage your time and prioritize your goals.


Regards,

Sugandh.S`

Courtesy :  Dr. Mercola

How to Relax after Office

How to relax after office

Yes, it’s always exhausting after office. Documents, reports, audits, meeting, handling complaints, and many more just happen from day to day at work. You must be very upset of these routines sometimes. 8 hours is not short for a day, more over 10 – 12 hours. Knowing how to relax after office is therefore inevitable. The rest of time after office can be spent best in order to meet certain condition of mind and psychology by which we will get recovered as soon as tomorrow’s coming.

There are several simple things that you can do to refresh and relax after work. They are mostly neglected due to either certain and uncertain reasons. Here you some tips how to relax after office.

1. Take a shower.

No body denies that taking a bath makes fresh and clean our body. Warm water can be the good option to go with. It will need few minutes to prepare. For those who live with heating machine by which warm water is easily provided feel much more convenient to do. Therapeutic flavor helps contribute to better relaxation during this moment.

2. Have your favorite dinner.

To cook for dinner takes time and bothers when exhausting all day office work came first. Just order for your favorite dinner from certain restaurant or alike by which you can enjoy it at home. If necessary, you can just go to a nice restaurant where you usually have a good time with someone you love. Why not if for a better soul and comfort?

3. Sleep longer.

No wonder. Some of hard workers spend their after office hours for continuing to work still. It does not support much the convenience of psychology mostly. Remember that energy perform best when it’s on the right timing. Go to sleep to release the stress and bored mood. Spend longer time for sleeping. You will find your self better than you normally do when forcing to still work after office.

4. Drink some tea

Tea is very helpful to relax. Professionals or private employees who spend 8 hours and so at work will have a better impression after drinking a cup of tea. It helps relax our blood circulation and makes more comfort our respiratory. Give it a try.

Don’t complaint that such simple things about how to relax after office confront your existing activities after office. They are optional of course. Somehow, many people have proven them effective and helpful for those who put relax first before others after their office hours.


Regards,

Sugandh.S`


Courtesy : dodik 

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Will updated soon..

Regards,

Sugandh.S

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Natpinile...Natpinile...

Natpinile...Natpinile...

Guys, this song Natpinile...Natpinile... from Kadhal Kondein is driving me Crazy.

When ever this song comes in my Playlist.. It loops atleast 10 - 15 times !!!!!! before moving to the next song....

What a soft melody number by Yuvan and rendered by Ranjith.

The Lyrics of the song goes as :

Natpinile.... Natpinile... Pirivu enbathu Yethum Illlai...
Yen Manamum Unn Manamum Pesa Vaarthagai Thevai Illai....

Ullukule Ullukule Aaariyam Ennangal Oooduthadi...
Athanayum Athanayum Unthan Paarvai Theduthadi...

Ippadi Naan Ippadi Naan
Ethanai Naal Vazhnthirupen...

Neeyum Illai ..Endru Sonnal
Entha Nizhalil Oivedupaen.......

And one last thing.... this post on the song has no correlation!!!!!! ...

With Regards,

Sugandh.S

மனம்

என் மனம் கனக்கிறது

ஏதோ ஒரு மலையை

சுமப்பது போல

அந்த கனமும் சுகம்தான்

உன் புன்னகையை நினைத்தால்

கண்களில் கண்ணீர்

வடிகிறது

மனம் கனப்பத்தினால் அல்ல


உன்னோட சிரித்த நாட்களை

நினைக்கும் போது .......






கண்ணீரில் ,

சுகந்த்

Mazhai .....

Defitnition of Best Friend!!!!!!!

Hi,

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert During some point of the Journey they had an Argument, and one friend Slapped the other one In the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE . They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE. The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it." LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!!! They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Send this phrase to the people you'll never forget. If you don't send it to anyone, it means you're in a hurry and that you've forgotten your friends. Take the time to live! Do not value the THINGS you have in your life. But value WHO you have in your life! " Happiness is not something you find, it's something you create…"

'Life Is Too Short To Waste Time Hating Anyone'

Regards,

Sugandh.S

!!!!!!! கண்ணீர் !!!!!!!!

வசந்தமான ரோஜாவை
என் வாழ்வில் வந்தாய்

முட்களை மட்டும்
என் இதயத்தில்
குத்திவிட்டு சென்றுவிட்டாய்

என் இதயம் கண்ணீர்
வடிக்கிறது இரத்தமாய்
ஏன் என்று தெரியாமல் ?

முட்களுக்கே தெரியவில்லை
ஏன் குத்தபட்டோம் என்று
ஏந்தி இருக்கும் இதயம்
மட்டும் என்ன செய்யும்

சிந்திய இரத்தம்
சிதறிக்கொண்டு சிரிக்கிறது
இதயம் அழுவதை பார்த்து !!!!!!!!!

இன்றும் அழுகையுடன்

சுகந்த்

One day I decided to quit

One day I decided to quit...



One day I decided to quit...
I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life.
I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.
"God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"
His answer surprised me...
"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"
"Yes", I replied.
When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.
I gave them light. I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor.
Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said.
"In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. "I would not quit." He said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.

Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant... But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

It had spent the five years growing roots.

Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle."

He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots."

"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. " Don't compare yourself to others .." He said. " The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern ... Yet, they both make the forest beautiful."

Your time will come, " God said to me. " You will rise high! " How high should I rise?" I asked.

How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.

"As high as it can? " I questioned.

" Yes. " He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can. "

I left the forest and bring back this story.

I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.

He will never give up on you.

Never regret a day in your life.

Good days give you happiness

Bad days give you experiences;

Both are essential to life.

A happy and meaningful life requires our continuous input and creativity. It does not happen by chance. It happens because of our choices and actions. And each day we are given new opportunities to choose and act and, in doing so, we create our own unique journey." Keep going...

Happiness keeps you Sweet,

Trials keep you Strong, Sorrows keep you Human,
Failures keep you humble , Success keeps You Glowing, but Only God keeps You Going!






Thanks & regards,

Sugandh.S


Courtesy : Vaishnavi

Sutta kavithai

சாய்ந்து கொள்ளத் தோளிருந்தால்

தோல்விகூட சுகம்தான்!!!

ஆறுதல் சொல்ல ஆளிருந்தால்

அழுவது கூட ஆனந்தம்தான்!!!

Yaarenum irunthal solli anuppavum............

Anbudan,

Sugandh.S

Courtesy : Murasoli (En nanban)

மௌனம்

தோழனே / தோழியே 

அதிகாலை சூரியனாய் வந்து 

என் வாழ்வை விடியச் செய்தாய் !

உன் சூரிய ஒளி பார்வையால் 

என் இதய மலரை மலரச் செய்தாய் ! 

காலைத் தென்றலாய் என் 

இதயத்தை குளிரச் செய்தாய்  !

இத்தனையும் செய்த நீ 

உன் மௌனதீயால்

ஏன் என்னை வேக வைக்கிறாய் ?????

என்றும் அன்புடன் 

சுகந்த்

Beautiful thought i come across

Trouble is part of your life: dont share it, if u share,u give the person who loves u a chance to hate you,...

Please follow this .

By ,

Sufferer.....

Courtersy : my friend.

துக்கம்

துக்கம் தலைக்கு ஏற
பார்க்கிறேன் உன் புகைபடத்தை
அதில் நீ மட்டும் சிரிக்கிறாய்
இது மட்டும்தான் உன் சொந்தமென
உன் நினைவுகள் இன்னும் என்னோடு இருப்பதை
கூறி தேற்றி விட்டு செல்கிறது மேகங்கள்

மாற்றத்தான் நினைக்கிறன்
இந்த நிலையை , ஆனால்
மீண்டும் ஒத்தை அடி பாதையை
புதுப்பிக்கறது என் கண்ணீர் !!!!


இப்படிக்கு
பாதிக்கப்பட்டவன் .......

Beauty of Innocence

BEAUTY OF INNOCENCE................





With love and patience, nothing is impossible.

நட்பு (பூ)

என் தோட்டத்தில் வளர்த்த பூக்களெல்லாம்

ஒரு நாள் வாடி போக கூடும்

உனக்காக

என் இதயத்தில் வளர்த்த நட்பு(பூ) மட்டும்

என்றுமே வாடாது

ஏனெனில்

நட்பு(பூ) வளர்க்கப்பட்டது

தண்ணீர் ஊற்றி அல்ல

என் குருதி கலந்த கண்ணீரால் !!!!!!

என்றும் உன் அன்புக்காக ஏங்கும்
சுகந்த்.ச

Note : I hope Still somemore fine tuning is required in this ....

இதோ முதல் அரங்கேற்றம் ......

எனக்கு தோன்றும் சிறு சிறு ஹைகுகளையும் , கவிதைகளையும் இணையபக்கத்தில் அரங்கேற்றப் போகிறேன் .இதோ முதல் அரங்கேற்றம் ......

தோழியே !

தோழியே !

கரை காண முடியாது
உன்மேல் நான் வைத்திருக்கும் அன்பை

அதை தக்க வைப்பதும் தவற விடுவதும்
உன் தனிப்பொறுப்பு ........

அதை விட்டு விடுகிறேன் உன்னிடம்
என் உயிர் தோழியே !!!!!!



என்றும் அன்புடன் ,
ச.சுகந்த்

Back to Office

BusyBee is back to office after a long Gap.......Busybee is going to make himself busy rightnow onwards......

Busybee towards Native ...

I am leaving to my native for some Personal work.Intha vyasula enna periya personal workunnu silaarukku mooku verkkum, athunala avungala ellam kasta paduthama straighta visayatha solren.enakku Ponnu parkure velaiyathan poren.Unga ellaroda aasirvathala ponnu kidaikumra nambikaila poren..thanks for your wishes to all prayed for me and pray for me..

Naan oorukku poyittu june 14 return delhikku vanthiduven.......

Flight kanama poganumnu vendi irukura aasamikalukku oru vendukol. please antha saabatha vaapus vaangikonga..

anaivarukkum yen vanakangal!!!!!

Endrum Anbudan ,,

ungal
Sugandh.S

Today someone told that i was lying about something !!

it just blew me away because I didn’t lie…
but I realize too, I have no obligation to prove
anything to anyone.

I hope someday this person knows the truth~
until that time,
I remain grateful.

:)

I am begining to understand who I am and what I want to be. I want to live with integrity. Other don’t know what wall I’m standing on, so some will never understand. I’m on that wall of making people better. Some of the actions will upset you because of many things. Some are as follows: you’re not ready for change, you don’t want to be better, you stuck in your interest of race/gender, you love being who you are and many more.

Getting over with people who had Fooled me ?

They’ve broken their word. They ignored my kind reminders of what they owe me. I lost money.

They don’t care about what would our peers think of them. They’ve gained from my loss. Not fair, isn’t it?

I’ve tried to be more patient but this time they’re outrightly avoiding me.

I am not afraid because I knew that one day they are going to need my help and I won’t lift a finger for them. Tables turn.

Regards,

Sugandh.S

Thinking about what to do Next ?????

I must keep busy…Even if people don’t believe I feel lonely..They say, “You? Lonely? I don’t believe it! You’re to good looking to pretty to be lonely…to much going for you…” blah blah blah. I just have overwhelming feelings at times, I would say alot. Sometimes it’s hard to look people in the eye. I really don’t feel depressed, just lonely, I can be happy by myself if I am busy…I feel the root of it all is my relationship . I just totally feel comfortable when everything is fine, then I feel like she doesn’t feel the same for me when she doesn’t call or email me anymore. Well I guess I am not little “stubborn” and dont call her either…”butting heads” I dunno. Maybe? Well I started to give myself away more, writing him calling leaving little messages, I mean it takes two in a relationship… Is it good to give myself away and not expect anything in return? Or treat people the way you want them to treat you? Or a little of both? I don’t know I am confused… There is more to this alot more…Too much to write here…Thanks for reading out there whoever you are!

If anybody can help me out to come out of my confusion please do it immediately..........

Regards,

Sugandh.S

How to Cope With Losing a Friend

Friends are one of the most important parts of our lives. During your lifetime, friends come and go. Losing a friend is emotionally draining and very frustrating, however there are ways you can cope.

1. Step 1

   Stay calm. In the early stages after losing a friend, it's tempting to act out against your former friend. You might be tempted to talk bad about him behind his back, or even do something worse like vandalism. However, this is not the way to go. Avoid acting out and remain calm. The tension and the anger you feel will decrease as the days and months pass.

2. Step 2

   Talk to someone. Sometimes talking about your feelings helps you really understand how you feel. Let your confidante know how hurt you are over losing your friend. Depend on her support.

3. Step 3

   Look for a new friend. There are a lot of people in this world and sooner or later you will find a new friend. Tell them how you feel. You could even try role playing or acting out your feelings.

4. Step 4

   Do something nice for yourself. Take a walk in the park. Stop and talk with people along the walking path. Treat yourself to some ice cream. Go to the mall. Find something you enjoy that will lift your spirits.

5. Step 5

   Remain cordial with your former friend. Even if your relationship ended on a sour note, bitter feelings tend to subside with time. If you see your former friend out in public, there's no need to run away. Politely say hello, but keep the conversation short. It's possible you'll need your former friend in the future, and it's best to stay polite.

6. Step 6

   Join an exercise club. You can meet people at the club, while having fun and exercising at the same time. Try some deep breathing exercises or meditation to help you relax and focus on thinking positive and eliminating some of the hurt and stress.

Courtesy : eHow Relationships & Family Editor

pain of losing a friend....

Dealing with the pain of losing a friend

When you lose a friend, the end of the friendship can feel as devastating as a bereavement. But it's difficult to grieve, exactly, because your friend is not dead. Just no longer your friend. So there's no funeral rites to help you, and no condolences from other people. The foundations of your life have been shaken - but everybody expects you to go on as normal.

Losing a friend can cause deep grief

You may know what it was that brought your friendship to an end. If it was by mutual agreement, you may have expected that you would be able to handle the loss of your friend with equanimity. You may be puzzled to find yourself going through the stages of grief. You may feel inexplicably weepy. Or angry. Or depressed. Because, even if you ended the friendship by agreement, you really have lost something important.

The pain of not knowing why the friendship ended

And it can be even trickier if you are not sure why the friendship has ended. Because then you may be questioning and blaming yourself - was it something I said? Something I did? And there is no answer to these painful questions. Although we like to think that 'there must be a reason', people's motives are not necessarily rationally explicable. Yet somehow you have to find a way to go on with your life without this friend.

Regards,

Sugandh.S

My sweet friend

I never saw you, didn't know you were there.And for most of my life, didn't think, didn't care.Through all of my sad times and happy times too.You were there with me, but I never knew.You never showed yourself, never let me see.Just who it was who was caring for me.As I lived my life all those lessons you taughtAnd never once, recognition you soughtYou've seen me through everything I have done.You've been my waxing Moon, my shining Sun.And now I know you are there, even though you still hide.I will say this with love, Thank You my Wonderful Sweet friend!!!!!

Stopped Chatting in Gmail Chat

Dear Friends ,
I am pleased to inform you that i Stopped chatting in gmail ,Facebook,Yahoo Messenger etc., for sometime.This decision is taken as my Special friend informed me not to chat in gmail and yahoo for sometime.I will be offline in future for somedays. I feel sorry for that.
please send mails in case of anything required or please do call friends......I will respond ur mails instantly..

Please kindly bare the inconvenience ........

With regards,

Sugandh.S
email: sugandhsathiamoorthi@gmail.com (or )
suga@aol.in
Mobile : 9899150607 / 98656 50607

Stress: A Health and Relationship Killer

What is Stress ?

There are many different definitions of stress. Some define stress to be a disturbance of a person’s normal psychological or physiological state. Others consider stress to be a situational factor or distressing circumstance external to the person. Some use the word "stress" as a term equivalent to "arousal" and "activation"; it is also used as a term for "bad effects". The many different definitions of stress have caused a great deal of ambiguity and confusion about the subject. When reading an article, listening to a lecture or participating in a discussion about stress, be sure the definition being used is clear.
One of the most useful definitions of stress is as follows: Stress is an internal process that occurs when a person is faced with a demand that is perceived to exceed the resources available to effectively respond to it, and where failure to effectively deal with the demand has important undesirable consequences. In other words, stress is experienced when there is an awareness of a substantial imbalance between demand and capability, under conditions where failure to meet the demand is perceived to have unwanted consequences.
Related Concepts
Perception and awareness of the imbalance between demand and capability and the negative consequences of not meeting the demand is needed in order for the person to experience stress. The perception does not have to be accurate, however. A false belief can cause significant stress.
Stressors are the events and thoughts that lead the person to perceive that a threatening demand is being made. Strain is the negative effects of stress. Strain may appear as fatigue, irritability, difficulty concentrating, medical and physical problems, insomnia, depression, anxiety, over eating, drug and alcohol abuse, risk taking, or diminished functioning, to name a few of the possibilities.
Stress can be positive and negative. On the positive side it alerts us to a threat and increases our level of arousal and activation which can help us be more effective in coping with the threat. It is mismanaged stress or an over-abundance of stress which causes strain and can be devastating for the person or the system.
The Process of Stress
When a potential stressor is perceived as threatening, the person’s level of arousal is increased and stress is experienced.
The person selects from the available resources a coping response that is expected to be effective in reducing or eliminating the stressor.
If stress is successfully reduced the person experiences a relaxation of arousal and increased confidence in being able to handle future stressors.
If the coping response is not successful stress and increased arousal continue. If new strategies are not tried or are unsuccessful the prolonged stress and increased arousal results in strain.
Stress Management
There is no absolute right way to manage stress. The best approach is to assess the specific situation, tailor the method to the particulars of the situation, and then monitor its effectiveness. Stress management is directed at one or more of the five interacting components involved in the stress process: 1) demand, 2) awareness, 3) arousal, 4) capability, and 5) the negative consequences. Here are some examples:
Identify and lessen the demands or increase capability by setting limits, i.e. saying "no", and by not taking on additional responsibilities before the existing ones are met or under control. Get more time or get extra help, or increase your effectiveness by utilizing better tools or by acquiring additional training.
Awareness, perception or the cognitive component, is likely the most important aspect. We need to be aware of all of the relevant issues concerning the demands, our capabilities, resources, and the potential consequences. We need to see these things accurately and clearly and plan accordingly. Our beliefs will determine how we handle the issues and how we feel. We could cause ourselves unnecessary stress by having false beliefs, or by being catastrophic in our thinking and believing something is awful or terrible when it is only difficult or unpleasant. We could also put ourselves in danger by having false beliefs, by using denial and avoidance and by not being aware of or perceiving a real threat.
Do something to reduce the arousal and tension and lower the level of activation. Take a break and stop thinking about the demands and consequences, relax and refocus on pleasant events. Work off the extra tension by exercising or participating in recreation and play. Get a massage, or take a vacation. The use of drugs or medication should be avoided or used only as a temporary last resort, because something needs to be changed not just tolerated.
Eliminate or lessen the effect of the negative consequences by preparing for them, changing the circumstances, or changing your thinking. Examples include putting money in an emergency savings account, buying insurance, changing jobs, crime prevention, earthquake preparedness, accepting what can’t be changed and refocusing your thinking and energy into the what can be done to overcome the negative and make things better. Professional treatment can help minimize or eliminate any physical or psychological problems that have developed because of the stress.
Everyone experiences stress and is vulnerable to it. We do not, however, have to be helpless victims to it. We can manage it, reduce and control it, and can minimize or prevent the negative consequences.
Stress: Push the Limits and Risk Death
There are some similarities between mechanical systems and human systems that are useful in appreciating the powerful effects of stress. Every system, human or mechanical, has limits and requirements for effective functioning. Each system operates within the limits of tolerance for demands, pressures and tensions placed upon it. The electrical circuits in your house are capable of handling a limited amount of power. When more energy is demanded than is safe to handle, the circuit is broken or a fuse is blown. If the water pressure in your plumbing is higher than it is designed to handle, a fitting will eventually leak or burst. If you run your new automobile hard all the time and neglect the proper maintenance, it will start giving you trouble and will deteriorate more quickly. Keep neglecting it and it will breakdown and force you to attend to it. Pushing a system beyond its limits and neglecting proper maintenance invites deterioration and breakdown.
Just like machines, human systems have limits and breaking points and require maintenance. If you are under increased pressure, push yourself hard and neglect the proper maintenance on yourself, you will also deteriorate and eventually have a breakdown. Your body will force you to stop and attend to it. If you neglect the maintenance in your marital relationship, your spouse will start giving you trouble, there will be a deterioration of the relationship and a breakdown in communication and goodwill. Don’t push yourself so hard that you use up all your best and have nothing left for your spouse and family but fatigue, intolerance and irritability. Don’t risk the loss of your personal relationships or the loss of your health. Save some of your best for your loved ones and yourself.
Stress can be Harmful to Your Health
Inappropriately handled stress can be devastating. It lowers our resistance and makes us more vulnerable to illness and disease. The increased inner pressure can cause our health to deteriorate resulting in a variety of serious physical problems. Stress victims can become emotional cripples and physiologically old and run down long before their time. Stress can cause a loss of not only health, but also loss of jobs, loss of families, even loss of life.
Stress can be Harmful to Others
People under stress also make more mistakes, and these mistakes can cause others to be secondary victims to someone else’s stress. I would not want to have surgery by a stressed surgeon or be cared for by a stressed nursing staff. Nor would I want to be a passenger on a plane maintained by a stressed maintenance crew or flown by a stressed pilot.
Common Symptoms of Stress

Physiological &Behavioral
Increased heart rateRise in blood pressureDryness of mouth & throatSweating Tightness of chestHeadacheNausea, vomitingIndigestionDiarrheaTrembling, twitchingGrinding of teethInsomniaAnorexiaFatigueSlumped posturePain, tightness in neck and back musclesUrinary frequencyMissed menstrual cycleReduced interest in sexHyperventilationAccidents and accident pronenessAltered food intakePoor concentrationDisinterest in activitiesDecreased involvement with othersBickeringSmokingUse of alcohol and drugsIncreased use of sarcasmTendency to cry easilyNightmaresComplaining, criticizing
Affective
IrritabilityDepressionAngry outburstsEmotional instabilityWithdrawalRestlessnessAnxietySuspiciousnessJealousyIncreased startle reactionDecreased frustration tolerance
Cognitive
ForgetfulnessPoor judgmentPoor concentrationReduced creativityLess fantasizingErrors in math and grammarPreoccupationInattention to detailsBlockingReduced productivityDiminished problem solving
Spiritual
Expressed concerns about belief system.Expressed concerns about relationshipwith a clergy.Separation from cultural and religiousrelationships.


Courtesy : Larry Alan...

Coping With Jealousy

Well, I'll tell you right now...
First if you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions.
Second, and just as important, you have to stop looking thirsty! Stop looking like a man desperate for a drop of water.
How on earth can she respect you, if you don't respect yourself enough to control your fears and paranoia?
I know what I'm talking about.
You see I'm a different kind of guy.
I will never allow myself to be a victim. I have, and always have had a Millionaire Mindset, and that goes for my relationships as well.
Jealousy is demeaning, and the fastest way to kill jealousy is to develop GREAT self-esteem.

Regards

Sugandh.S

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Love & friendship

Once upon a timelove and friendshipwere walking in village.Love fall in dug because love is blind.friend ship also fall becausefriend ship can do every thing for love !!!!

With love ,,

Suga.....

Chaos theory & butterfly Effect

CHAOS THEORY In mathematics, chaos theory describes the behavior of certain dynamical systems – that is, systems whose state evolves with time – that may exhibit dynamics that are highly sensitive to initial conditions (popularly referred to as the butterfly effect). As a result of this sensitivity, which manifests itself as an exponential growth of perturbations in the initial conditions, the behavior of chaotic systems appears to be random. This happens even though these systems are deterministic, meaning that their future dynamics are fully defined by their initial conditions, with no random elements involved. This behavior is known as deterministic chaos, or simply chaos.Chaotic behaviour is also observed in natural systems, such as the weather. This may be explained by a chaos-theoretical analysis of a mathematical model of such a system, embodying the laws of physics that are relevant for the natural system.BUTTERFLY EFFECTThe phrase refers to the idea that a butterfly's wings might create tiny changes in the atmosphere that may ultimately alter the path of a tornado or delay, accelerate or even prevent the occurrence of a tornado in a certain location. The flapping wing represents a small change in the initial condition of the system, which causes a chain of events leading to large-scale alterations of events. Had the butterfly not flapped its wings, the trajectory of the system might have been vastly different. Of course the butterfly cannot literally cause a tornado. The kinetic energy in a tornado is enormously larger than the energy in the turbulence of a butterfly. The kinetic energyof a tornado is ultimately provided by the sun and the butterfly can only influence certain details of weather events in a chaotic manner.Recurrence, the approximate return of a system towards its initial conditions, together with sensitive dependence on initial conditions are the two main ingredients for chaotic motion. They have the practical consequence of making complex systems, such as the weather, difficult to predict past a certain time range (approximately a week in the case of weather).The movie does Show " A Butterfly " flying accross the screen after the Tsunami Attcck, clearly indicating that the Tsunami is an Outcome of " The Butterfly effect ".ALSOOOOOOO........I said that the butterfly COULD cause a hurricane.That's a huge probability. Would be a negligible probability. NOT a huge one. if that were true, we would have cyclones on an hourly basis as butterflies keep flitting all over Africa and u don't have so many cyclones to account for a HUGE probability.Chaos,relativity and quantum mechanics are so damn weird that you will think I am talking metaphysics and pseudoscience.Like for example,according to quantum mechanics,there is a finite probability that you will fall right through a solid chair.And it is a PROBABILITY.Even 10 to the power -26 is finite :-) .But yes, Quantum Mechanics does allow for weird situations.THE CONNECTION !!!!!Guys check this link for a clear and complete explanationhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chaos_theory http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_effect